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"Mad Men" and Crazy Me

I just posted the following on my blog, MIZB'S VIEWS FROM THE TOWER, located at: http://mizbviewsfromthetower.blogspot.com. Do drop by!

"Mad Men" and Crazy Me

The AMC cable TV series Mad Men, a discerning depiction of a New York ad agency in 1960 and the tone and temper of American middle class life in that era, has won much critical acclaim and many awards. Its creators strived for authenticity in every detail and whether one looks back on that period as the good old days or views it with the virgin eye that accompanies exposure to an unfamiliar, bygone time, it's a captivating examination of an America that is no more. As a prelude to the start of the series' second season next week, AMC is running a Mad Men marathon of season one today, and although I've already seen it, I've been enjoying this second look.

I was eight years old in 1960 and was very much shaped by that era, a society defined by clearly delineated roles, modest technology and innocence, on its way out but still palpable. I was 18 when I worked for a now-defunct advertising and p.r. company that held the distinction of being the first black-owned firm of its kind on Madison Avenue. As Mad Men reveals, this world (even ten years later) embodied everything that we today regard with disdain, if not outright horror: racism, sexism, corporate chicanery, entrenched alcoholism, sexual harassment and chain smoking.


We're supposed to be appalled - and fascinated. And I am both. But I'm also filled with a sense of longing; I miss a lot of that stuff. I miss straight skirts and high heels and higher hair and pancake make-up. I miss private offices. I miss TV in black & white with seven channels. I miss typewriters and heavy black telephones tethered to wires. I miss men in smart silk suits accented with unwarranted confidence and superiority. I miss ignorance of the rest of the world, a sense of unlimited plenty, the delusion of national greatness, the false promise of married bliss and suburban delight. I miss the lies and possibilities.

I miss the comfort of certitude and prime beef and cocktails. I miss the companionship of Top 40 radio and thriving libraries. I miss a New York of native New Yorkers in disparate neighborhoods, a time before gentrification when some apartments were still cheap and middle/working class families could buy houses for $20,000 that now cost more than $1 million. I miss the time when one could clearly distinguish between Democrats and Republicans and neither (as a rule) felt compelled to bring religion into their politics.

Now, I realize that my nostalgia is in many ways ridiculous, born of emotional fatigue, intellectual disappointment, the frenzy of technology run amok, the hostility of social polarization, and a non-smoking outside world (I dearly miss cigarettes for 50-cents-a-pack that could be gotten from machines that were everywhere). I'm not forgetting that, as Mad Men shows, women were treated like idiots, toys and office perks, that many housewives were truly desperate. I'm not forgetting that blacks and Hispanics were totally disenfranchised, Jews were marginalized, and gays were relegated to shame-filled, secretive shadows. I'm not forgetting Boogeyman Communism and elementary school drills that tried to make us believe we could hide from a nuclear assault under our desks. I'm not forgetting that we were duped by advertising and politics, and that our sense of well-being was built on a foundation of sinking bulls**t.

But I feel so displaced by the present, so restricted by political correctness, so limited by humorlessness in all quarters, so imposed upon by the needs, rights and imperatives of the rest of the world, so horrified by our methamphetamine pace, so defeated by environmental decay. Call me crazy, but I miss the miseries of a simpler time. But I do love cable TV. Life is such a constantly evolving (and devolving) trade-off, isn't it?

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MizB, I was 7 in 1960, grew up in Tucson, Arizona and my parents were both school teachers who didn't smoke. It's been really facinating to watch the Mad Men characters and compare my own experiences. Our mothers were more like Francine than Betty and only one neighbor even came close to Joan. My mother was not working at the time, but she was never bored and neither were her neighbors. It made me laugh to see Betty sitting around in her nighties, smoking and pulling laundry out of a dryer (???). We all had clothes lines. My mother did all the yard work, all the child-related work, all the housework (which included ironing) and was rarely seen pouting. My dad went to work every day while building our new home (he built all 3 of our houses).
Here's what I miss:
Never having to lock the doors at night.
Our parents never worried that we were out playing all day where they couldn't keep an eye on us.
All the neighbors knew each other, had potlucks and lived on unpaved streets.
One TV (that the whole family could watch) and one phone (and no marketing calls).
Drive-in movies (we had at least 6...the only 2 indoor theaters were downtown where nobody went).
Fast forward to now: 14 year-old has to have the cell phone strapped to her body so I can stay in touch because mom has always worked. She has a computer, TV, Playstation and DVD player in her bedroom. She is constantly warned about predators and drug use. Her school rarely has a textbook she can actually bring home. Her world is high tech. When I talk to her about black and white TV, she smiles and goes back to texting. Her friends are of every different race and gender (even some who are gay). It should be an interesting future.
Thanks for the memories!

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I was not even born till 1965,but my dad was a mad Man
during the 70,s and I remember picking him from the train
I remember the alcohol and the cigarette's I remember his un relinquished authority , I remember the 1tv I also remember the wash line. I do miss what felt like a simpler time and I can relate to todays generation with cell phone addiction and hight tech all the time as what I want to call myself the tween generation I don't know which is better I think I felt safer then all I know is that my generation at least on Long Island it feels like is the last generation that could by a house without a college degree or a "white collar job".